Have you ever wondered why so many cultures worldwide value family gatherings to celebrate the arrival of a new year? These gatherings offer a unique opportunity to connect emotionally more profoundly, fostering a sense of belonging and understanding among family members. During these moments, we might find the courage to express our feelings, share our joys, and confront our fears.
However, expressing our feelings can sometimes be challenging and tricky. We might find ourselves slipping into complaints instead of sharing our deeper emotions. Understanding the difference between the two can help us connect more authentically with ourselves and those around us.
Expressing feelings involves sharing our joys, fears, and vulnerabilities. It’s about opening up and inviting others to understand our inner world. Although it may feel risky, it fosters deeper connections and empathy.
On the other hand, complaining focuses on what’s wrong or what we dislike. While this is valid, complaints keep our conversations surface-level and don’t invite the same understanding or support.
How can we express our feelings more confidently?
- Start Small: Begin with simple feelings. Instead of saying, “I’m frustrated,” try, “I felt overlooked in that situation, and it upset me.”
- Practice Situational Awareness: Take time to check in with yourself. Understanding your feelings can make it easier to express them.
- Use “I” Statements: This can help take ownership of your emotions. For example, “I feel anxious about the upcoming changes” instead of “You’re making me anxious.”
- Create a Safe Space: Find trusted friends or family members who encourage open dialogue. Feeling safe can make expressing deeper emotions less daunting.
- Reflect: Write your feelings in a journal before sharing them. This process helps clarify your thoughts and emotions.
Remember, expressing feelings is a courageous act; the more we practice, the easier it becomes. Let’s commit to fostering genuine conversations and deeper connections in our lives!
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Take care and be well,
Dr. Lawrence M. Nelson, MD, MBA
Director, My 28 Days® Initiative
President, Mary Elizabeth Conover Foundation, Inc.
